Relationship

There comes an end in your life when you realize who really matters, who in no way did, and who at all times will….


I think when one realizes this fact, they can be able to survive in the worst of situations happened to them on various relationships. It may be any kind of relation, be it your friend, spouse or family member. Once in a while you face the situation where you fall upon as they become worst fraction of your life. You always have options to choose.


Above of all the contradictions I believe that one of the deepest and most vital needs for humanity is to have trusting, fulfilling relationships so much, so that it fulfilled the next best option of your life. We simply overlook it sometimes since everything seems to be fine but we must be thoughtful about relationships we have had or those we have now. Some relationships build up by encouraging you and affirming you as a person and you have the most wonderful life among them, but there are some that are soul draining, energy zapping and leaving you with feelings of resentment, dejection, hopelessness, frustration, nuisance, guilt, shame and being frayed? It is very difficult to stay in a type where you acknowledge the behavior is frigid. Sometimes we fall upon and choose to stay in these types, being unaware that if we are doing so, then we are a part of the trouble and dilemma; one should look for aid.


Although there are some alternative by which we can control over in life - our thoughts, behaviors and reactions. We cannot control the way somebody treats us, but we do have 100 percent control over how we react – whether you stay, leave, speak up or accept it. I many times faced the situation on local trains, with friends and relatives. Every time you meet a situation, though you think at the time it is impossibility and you go through the tortures of the hopeless. One must have to meet it and lived through it. I sometimes find that forever after you are freer than you were before.

There are positive situations too that is a ultimate makeup for all; the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.

Just founded these lines somewhere :

There's one sad truth in life I've found
while journeying worth and while-
The only folks we really wound
are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.


There must be a knot into which we can tie relationships.